One of the biggest fears of single people, is not to end up with the wrong person. And that's because they don't know how to recognize who the right or wrong person is.
The journey of finding the right peatner begins by being the right person. You can attract anyone but you decide who you are attached to.
First let me state that, God did not create any bad person. Everybody He created are good. But people grow up to be what they become. Toxic, bad mannered, bad character, unhealthy communication skill, lazy, nosey, gossip, etc.
You cannot rarely know people but to know who to keep a relationship with, of who to marry there are basic informations you must have to guide you.
1 PURPOSE
You can't build a purposeful venture with a purposeless man or woman.
Living life without a definite purpose is like embarking on a journey without a specified destination.
Purpose discovery is life itself. Until you discover it you are just existing, you have not started living. A man without purpose is a mere statistical piece of materia, he is infinitesimal, he's only valuable for sensors purpose.
He only counts when they are counting sensors. Young man don't marry a lady without purpose. Education is not purpose, good job is not purpose, car and house is not purpose. Rich family background is not purpose.
Purpose is that singular reason why you are here on Earth. It's the assignment attached to your birth and existence.
It's a divine signature that makes you unique and different from any other person.
Marry their purpose not their purse. Fall in Love with his purpose not his broad chest. Fall in Love with his purpose not how active he is in bed. Fall in Love with his purpose not what he drives. Not all.men driving good car have something driving them. Many of them are heading no where.
Marry her purpose not a her straight legs and big breast, marry her purpose, breast will sag, purpose doesn't, face will wrinkle purpose doesn't. A purposeless spouse will make you live a life of struggle. Too many young people live each day without defining their purpose.
Nothing you do will make sense, until you first find out why you are here, which is your purpose.
HOW TO DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE.
Use S.H.A.P.E
Spiritual gifts your God given treasure
Heart- your true passion
Abilities- what you are naturally good at
Personality who God made you to be
Experience where you are coming from.
2 VALUES
The degree of importance given to something
What is important to them? Will to a large extent tell where they are going to in life.
The value of a person speaks of the persons worth.
The values of a person are the things a person holds dear.
In the business world, or organizational level, it's called core values.
The things that are at the center of your life. Your life revolves around them. Your decisions are influenced by them.
Your values are what people use to evaluate you.
Place value on virginity. Place value on sexual purity. Place value on staying without sex.
If you want to know the right person check their values and yours, then see if they are similar. People of similar values attract, and then connect. If the values are not similar, there will be attraction, but no connection. If the values are not the same there will be friction, issues, and problems in the marriage.
What makes a person your best friend is similarities in values. Check it, the person likes and loves the things you like and love.
HOW DO YOU DETERMINE YOUR CORE VALUES?
1 what are the things you cannot do no matter the amount you are offered? You value integrity
2 does money easily influence your decisions? You value shortcuts
3 do you place importance on the rich above the poor? Then you value fame and relevance
4 do you prefer to work for your own money than to be given all that you need for free? Then you value hardwork
5 do you stick to your decisions and will not bend even at gun point? Then you are principled.
6 do you see yourself sticking to the truth? Then you value honesty
7 do you see yourself been able to endure and cope with toxic people, Difficult situations? Then you are tolerant.
3 BELIEF SYSTEM
Belief system actually talks of how a person thinks. And people derive their values from the way they think.
Belief system is the glasses with which you view things, people and life generally. It's the Colour of glasses you are wearing that determines what you see and how you see things.
Before you consider a person for relation or marriage, check how they think. A man that says you must be pregnant for him before he marries you already shows that he has problem, which can be traceable to how he thinks.
A person can either have a traditional way of thinking or a kingdom way of thinking.
Traditional way of thinking can be influenced by society or environment.
Check to know what inspires their thoughts, what is the origin of their dominant thoughts.
HOW TO DEVELOP THE RIGHT BELIEF SYSTEM
1 Exposure: he who has not traveled has only read one chapter of the book called the world.
Be selective of the content you consume on social media and television, because they are food for the mind. They are prepared to get likes from people, so it's low on nutrition, and very high on sugar and spices.
2 Association: the people you hang out with will affect your belief. The people you talk with regularly, will soon determine how you talk, because they will influence how you think. Words comes from thoughts.
You cannot see differently from your association.
3 Knowledge: information is power. Read books that inform you on right belief system. Don't read books that informs you that men are superior to women, they will affect your belief system. Get information, buy books, expose yourself to mind stretching and thoughts provoking discussions.
Travel:
4 FINANCIAL PRINCIPLES
Don't ignore their thoughts about money. What's their financial language? A person from a poor home may have wrong knowledge about money.
Are they stingy? You may not know that because they may be giving to you to impress you. Check how they give to the poor and what they give them. A generous man is known by how he gives to the needy.
Do they believe in savings, or let's just eat it all?
Do they believe in investment or they believe that God will take care of tomorrow?
Do they believe in risk management, or just spend recklessly?
Are they accountable financially?